Who Do You Think You Are?

Who do you think you are?

This is a voice from my childhood, a voice that reminded me that I was too big, too sensitive, too outspoken, and too bright. The voice that put me in my place and taught me to play it small, stay in the shadows, and constantly prove my worth.

This is the voice I hear in my head now whenever I attempt to stretch my boundaries. Whether it be to accomplish my dreams or allow myself to rest, I hear myself wondering just who do I think I am.

We all have these voices inside of us, these messages that we received when we were little and internalized in only the way a child can. We gave these messages meaning, created stories and beliefs around them, and constructed our life choices from this place. As children, these were survival strategies that got us through whatever childhood challenges we faced. Survival strategies are a brilliant and intelligent way that we as human beings navigate the world. They work wonders, until they don’t. Eventually, as we feel the pull to grow and evolve, these strategies no longer work. Rather than helping us to navigate successfully through our lives, they become the source of breakdowns and pain. What once was effective is now something to be transformed.

As I sit in an attempt to stretch my boundaries of self-care and self-allowance, I am faced with my own internal strategy of performing and doing as a way to earn my worth and enough-ness in this world. What my soul needs right now is to rest and to be in a state of nothing-ness. To give myself the freedom to just be, as is, just me. What I must dance with is the extreme discomfort and tugging of that part of me that needs to keep moving and doing. The part of me that struggles to see that she is enough and her worth is her divine right. The part of me that has nothing to prove. The part of me that has kept me in constant motion, sometimes at super hero speed, to be and do everything.

And so now comes the work. The part where we must sit in the discomfort and welcome in all of the painful and uncomfortable feelings we work so hard to silence and keep away. To hold ourselves with love and acceptance, allowing the pain to arise and the feelings to be seen and expressed. To stay with this part of ourselves, for as long as it takes, as she grieves, heals, and moves forward. To have the courage to dive in and do this dance that will eventually set us free and connect us to the deeper truth and knowing.

Who do you think you are?

This voice of my childhood that has influenced my choices in staying in the shadows and playing small. This voice that has prevented me from choosing to rest and just be. This voice that was once painful and something I pushed away.

Well now… now it is a powerful voice that I welcome.

Who do I think I am??

I am Worthy!

I am Enough!

And as I sit in the vast space of nothing, I realize that I am everything.

With love and joy,

Jenn

 

 

 

 

Disconnecting from Love and the Journey Back

For as long as I can remember, I have had this part of me that wants to change the world. I can remember being a very young child, loving so deeply and feeling the pain of the world on my shoulders and in my heart. I would cry about the unfairness faced by certain people and the mistreatment of others. I couldn’t understand why those around me didn’t seem to be as outraged and heartbroken as I was. Was there something wrong with me? Did I not really understand what it meant to love?

 

Over time, I started to believe there absolutely was something wrong with me. I was told that I was too sensitive, had too many standards, and needed to lighten up. It seemed as though everyone around me was going with the flow and taking life as it was, so why couldn’t I? Why did I always have to be the one that felt uncomfortable when someone said something I found offensive, yet made others laugh? Since I was the odd one out, I believed it was me and I gave up the fight.

 

A part of me went to sleep, shut down, closed off. I was tired of feeling alone in the world and carrying so much pain. I wanted to let go and be free, just like everyone else seemed to be. I tuned out and chose to walk blindly and lightly through life. And for a while, this felt pretty darn good. Life became simple and fun, and I lived in a self-created bubble.

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Getting Clear on Love

When we choose to love those whom we don’t understand and give this to people who are different, that is when we break through barriers and open spaces within us, allowing love to flow more freely.

 

Getting clear on what it means to love…

Sometimes I wonder why it has become so difficult for us to love one another.

When I think about life, and the way we enter this world, all I can think about is love. The act of creation stemming from a state of love. The moment a newborn is held, drenched in a field of love. The reflection from a baby’s eyes, nothing but pure love. Love is our natural state, it is where we come from and what we are made of. Love is the one thing we, as human beings, don’t have to learn to do. Ok, well maybe besides breathing.

So, what happens? Why does something that comes to us as naturally as breathing become one of the most difficult things for most of us to do?

You may be reading this and be thinking that you have no problem loving at all. That you love your children, your family, your friends. Heck, maybe you even love your neighbors and a few of your co-workers. That’s a heck of a lot of people, so loving isn’t an issue for you at all. Right?

Well, you tell me.

Loving the people that we choose to have in our lives can be easy when things are going well. After all, you surround yourself with those whom you have things in common with and people that you feel good around with. When all is aligned, love can flow easily from you and hopefully to you as well. But what happens when things are not going so well? What happens when you disagree or when a loved one disappoints or hurts you? What about when the unimaginable happens or tragedy strikes, are you still in a state of love? Continue reading

The World that You See. You Get to Choose!

In each and every moment, we have power over how we choose to respond and how we choose to create our future. What we see in our outer world is actually a reflection of what is happening within us. We might not realize it, but we are absolutely more powerful than we allow ourselves to believe.

 

In each and every moment we have power over how we choose to show up, how we choose to respond, and how we choose to generate our future. We are co-creators of our experiences and what we are seeing in our outer world is actually a reflection of what is happening within us. We might not realize it, but we are absolutely more powerful than we allow ourselves to believe.

There are many beautiful quotes and sayings about this idea from some of the most wise and influential thought leaders. Here are just a few of my favorites….

“Remember that your perception of the world is a reflection of your state of consciousness” – Eckhart Tolle

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” – David Thoreau

“The world that we perceive is a reflection of our own states of mind and reveals our own level of consciousness.” – Prem Prakash

“The world exists as you perceive it. It is not what you see, but how you see it. It’s not what you hear, but how you hear it. It’s not what you feel, but how you feel it.” – Rumi

It can be easy to read these beautiful and powerful words and feel this deep sense of connection and inspiration, almost like these thoughts are being spoken directly to our souls. We can experience these as “a-ha moments” and feel as though our whole world has suddenly shifted, vowing to be different from that moment on.

And then life happens…

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Creating with Tiny Devotions

 

An Interview with Tiny Devotions
It isn’t often that I come by a company that I am inspired by and excited to support, so when I do, I want to share it with my warriors! Enjoy…

1.  What is Tiny Devotions?
Tiny Devotions is a spiritual lifestyle brand dedicated to helping our community live a mindful and intentional life. We are a sisterhood of meditating, yoga-obsessed and gem adorned free spirits, lightworkers, healers, and priestesses. We live a life devoted to our purpose and really believe in the power of rituals. We use the moon as our clock and our intuition as our compass. Our inspiration comes from the freedom of nature, and the luxury of gypset.

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Make 2018 a Year to Remember!

Another year had gone while a new year is now upon us. Read on for some ways that you can create an empowering and exciting start to your new year ahead.

 

Another year is gone while a new year is upon us and if you are anything like most, you haven’t done much to prepare for it. Most likely, it feels like it came out of nowhere and along with it, a reminder of all the things you wanted to do but didn’t get done in the year that has passed.

Even though it may not feel like it, there are actually ways that you can create an empowering and exciting start to the new year ahead.

The new year holiday is a time for setting a foundation for the year to come. It represents a symbolic or ceremonial space where you can reflect on the year that has passed, cleanse away anything not serving you, and start fresh in a thoughtful and intentional way.

Most of us will sort of sleepwalk through this time of the year. We may randomly pick some resolutions that we feel guilty about and convince ourselves that we are going to make them a priority in the new year. Since we know that most new year resolutions don’t make it past January, we are basically setting ourselves up for failure and starting off the year feeling like shit about ourselves. And then we wonder why we aren’t achieving our goals and living the life we desire, right?

If we instead embrace this time of year as a space for reflection, cleansing, and starting fresh, we set ourselves up to feel good and in turn, to win.

So, what exactly does it mean to reflect, cleanse, and start fresh?

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Are You Making the Choice to not Choose?

Each and every moment you are making decisions. Be intentional in creating choices that will resonate with the desires of your heart.

 

Each and every moment of each and every day, you are making a decision. Whether or not you are conscious of these decisions and being thoughtful about the process, the fact remains, you are in a constant state of decision making, sorting through choices, and sifting through possibilities.

My experience has been that most of us go through our lives forgetting this fact. We trick ourselves into believing that we have no choice at all and therefore, no way of altering situations in our life. We travel through our days without even considering the endless possibilities that lie in front of us, hypnotized by the path we have walked thus far and our beliefs about what it all might mean.

So, what if we opened ourselves up to the idea that we not only have the ability to choose, but we also possess the power to do so? What if every single step you took was impressed with intention, consciously put forward by the deepest part of your soul. What if life happened FOR you, the universe laying at your feet the road you are meant to travel. What might this shift in perception mean for you?

I think sometimes we avoid claiming our power to choose out of fear of making bad choices. Afraid of going down the wrong path, we instead remain on the undesired path simply by default. We become a victim of circumstances, believing things are beyond our control.

Well, this is, in fact, a choice. A choice to walk blindly, a choice to forfeit our power, a choice to remain on the path of least resistance.

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Are You Running Nowhere Fast?

There are many things we do to distract ourselves from processing the bad stuff we experience daily. My hunch is that you have been running nowhere fast.

 

Let’s face it, the bad stuff just doesn’t really feel good at all. It is not appealing to think about facing those feelings that seek to cause you discomfort and heartache. Face those thoughts that dredge up old memories. Look at those deep dark places within you that threaten to expose your most vulnerable parts. The bad stuff starts to surface and the instinct that rises to the surface is to run and find a way to make those feelings go away.

There are so many things we do to run away. There is denial, destruction, avoidance, over-indulgence, and even depression. We find whatever ways we can, whether consciously or not, to avoid having to feel all that bad crap and keep ourselves moving forward.

What makes this worse these days, is the focus on thinking positive. We have gotten to this place where everyone seems to have the same answer for anyone’s problems…”Just think positive.” It’s almost a sign of weakness or something if you make an attempt to go into the yucky stuff that may be surfacing. And yes, focus and mindset are a major component in succeeding at any goal and a big part of what I teach all of my clients.

So that begs the question of what you are supposed to do when the inevitable moments of feeling the bad stuff come up. Can you just positively think your way out of having to face them?

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Why You Must Be Open to Receiving Help

Make the choice to work with a coach, a mentor or a therapist. Empower yourself the gift of living to the potential you have been created to live.

 

I have noticed that most people associate the act of seeking out a coach, mentor, therapist, or counselor with times of being in crisis. The idea of seeing someone doesn’t even occur to most until there is an experience of pain and discomfort, a struggle to find their way through a challenge or catastrophe. I notice this when parents question whether or not to place their children in therapy or counseling, worrying that this may somehow be a negative experience in their life. Or when couples wait until they are no longer speaking or not having sex to begin counseling. While times of crisis are absolutely important times to seek out help, I have always viewed the helping field in a very different way.

Making the choice to work with a coach, mentor, therapist, or counselor (let’s refer to this as seeing someone), is making the choice to empower yourself in a way that alters your life moving forward. It is a gift of opportunity that allows you to heal, learn, and grow in ways that you are unable to do so on your own. When you can give yourself, or your loved ones, this opportunity PRIOR to a crisis, you are giving yourself/them the gift of preparation, a readiness to deal with whatever comes your way. Having tools and support prior to challenges and crisis allows you to navigate your way through life in a more empowered and effective way.

As I have gone through my life, I have ventured in and out working with therapist, counselors, mentors, and coaches. Each one has provided me with knowledge and tools, and each one has allowed me to understand myself in a different and deeper way. I have worked with someone in times of crisis, as well as times when all is good in my world, and each has provided a very different experience.

When working with someone while in crisis, the focus is usually on the issue at hand and therefore my thinking, perception, and openness have been less open. We often times get so caught up in the stress and pain of a problem that we are unable to see past through it. Our view becomes limited and therefore our ability to learn and to grow becomes compromised as well. Working with someone through a crisis is absolutely beneficial and there are times in my life that would have gone very differently had I not had the support and guidance of a mentor.

When working with someone while life is just flowing along, the work I have done has been much broader. It is during these times that my ability to explore within myself is much greater, and I am able to see the big picture in a clearer way. Being able to work on personal development while not in pain and/or stress was an opportunity for me to learn tools and practice implementing them in a safe and non-pressure way. And it is through having this experience that I have felt better equipped and more empowered to handle life’s challenges as they come my way.

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A Perspective of Hope in the Wake of Charlottesville

Charlottesville. We all have the choice to seize the opportunity presented to us and make a difference. Life is happening in service of us, not to us.

 

I simply have felt compelled to write….

I remember the days after Donald Trump was elected president, feeling as though permission had now been granted for hatred and evil to be released into our world. I remember feeling scared and afraid, a sense of foreboding that things were about to get really bad. I have prayed, I have worried, and I have cried in the days that have followed and I imagine, this will not be ending soon.

As the days have gone by, I have tried to make sense of things and somehow wrap my head around how any of this can actually be reality in 2017. If I am honest, I really should not be surprised as I know, in the deepest place in my soul, that nothing can be healed when it has been buried. Yes, we have come a long way over the years on the surface, but underneath all of it, there has been a steady flow of racism, sexism, heterosexism, and anti-Semitism present in our world and unfortunately, since we have only sought to bury the past, it seems that these opinions have only grown in strength for many.

Over this past weekend, I was devastated and sick to my stomach watching the images of Charlottesville unfold. I felt like someone had kicked me in my gut when I heard Donald Trump respond with blame on all sides and refuse to acknowledge the woman, Heather Heyer, whose life was taken as a result of this ignorant and disgusting display of humanity. It was in these moments that I knew my fears had come into fruition and that evil had absolutely been given permission to come forth.

As a spiritual woman, I have struggled with my beliefs over the past few days, attempting to understand how all of this can be happening in the abundant universe of love and support that I believe in. What could possibly be the reason, what could possibly be the purpose?

One of the things I write and speak most about is how everything, even the worst of our struggles, is an opportunity and a gift from the universe, offering the possibility for growth and healing. Life is happening for us, in service of us, not to us. I truly believe in what I teach and have sought to understand how I can apply this belief to what is happening in our world today. And I want to share this perspective with you here today.

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