Category Archives: Spirituality

Getting Clear on Love

When we choose to love those whom we don’t understand and give this to people who are different, that is when we break through barriers and open spaces within us, allowing love to flow more freely.

 

Getting clear on what it means to love…

Sometimes I wonder why it has become so difficult for us to love one another.

When I think about life, and the way we enter this world, all I can think about is love. The act of creation stemming from a state of love. The moment a newborn is held, drenched in a field of love. The reflection from a baby’s eyes, nothing but pure love. Love is our natural state, it is where we come from and what we are made of. Love is the one thing we, as human beings, don’t have to learn to do. Ok, well maybe besides breathing.

So, what happens? Why does something that comes to us as naturally as breathing become one of the most difficult things for most of us to do?

You may be reading this and be thinking that you have no problem loving at all. That you love your children, your family, your friends. Heck, maybe you even love your neighbors and a few of your co-workers. That’s a heck of a lot of people, so loving isn’t an issue for you at all. Right?

Well, you tell me.

Loving the people that we choose to have in our lives can be easy when things are going well. After all, you surround yourself with those whom you have things in common with and people that you feel good around with. When all is aligned, love can flow easily from you and hopefully to you as well. But what happens when things are not going so well? What happens when you disagree or when a loved one disappoints or hurts you? What about when the unimaginable happens or tragedy strikes, are you still in a state of love? Continue reading

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The World that You See – You Get to Choose!

In each and every moment, we have power over how we choose to respond and how we choose to create our future. What we see in our outer world is actually a reflection of what is happening within us. We might not realize it, but we are absolutely more powerful than we allow ourselves to believe.

 

In each and every moment we have power over how we choose to show up, how we choose to respond, and how we choose to generate our future. We are co-creators of our experiences and what we are seeing in our outer world is actually a reflection of what is happening within us. We might not realize it, but we are absolutely more powerful than we allow ourselves to believe.

There are many beautiful quotes and sayings about this idea from some of the most wise and influential thought leaders. Here are just a few of my favorites….

“Remember that your perception of the world is a reflection of your state of consciousness” – Eckhart Tolle

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” – David Thoreau

“The world that we perceive is a reflection of our own states of mind and reveals our own level of consciousness.” – Prem Prakash

“The world exists as you perceive it. It is not what you see, but how you see it. It’s not what you hear, but how you hear it. It’s not what you feel, but how you feel it.” – Rumi

It can be easy to read these beautiful and powerful words and feel this deep sense of connection and inspiration, almost like these thoughts are being spoken directly to our souls. We can experience these as “a-ha moments” and feel as though our whole world has suddenly shifted, vowing to be different from that moment on.

And then life happens…

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Creating with Tiny Devotions

 

An Interview with Tiny Devotions
It isn’t often that I come by a company that I am inspired by and excited to support, so when I do, I want to share it with my warriors! Enjoy…

1.  What is Tiny Devotions?
Tiny Devotions is a spiritual lifestyle brand dedicated to helping our community live a mindful and intentional life. We are a sisterhood of meditating, yoga-obsessed and gem adorned free spirits, lightworkers, healers, and priestesses. We live a life devoted to our purpose and really believe in the power of rituals. We use the moon as our clock and our intuition as our compass. Our inspiration comes from the freedom of nature, and the luxury of gypset.

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Make 2018 a Year to Remember!

Another year had gone while a new year is now upon us. Read on for some ways that you can create an empowering and exciting start to your new year ahead.

 

Another year is gone while a new year is upon us and if you are anything like most, you haven’t done much to prepare for it. Most likely, it feels like it came out of nowhere and along with it, a reminder of all the things you wanted to do but didn’t get done in the year that has passed.

Even though it may not feel like it, there are actually ways that you can create an empowering and exciting start to the new year ahead.

The new year holiday is a time for setting a foundation for the year to come. It represents a symbolic or ceremonial space where you can reflect on the year that has passed, cleanse away anything not serving you, and start fresh in a thoughtful and intentional way.

Most of us will sort of sleepwalk through this time of the year. We may randomly pick some resolutions that we feel guilty about and convince ourselves that we are going to make them a priority in the new year. Since we know that most new year resolutions don’t make it past January, we are basically setting ourselves up for failure and starting off the year feeling like shit about ourselves. And then we wonder why we aren’t achieving our goals and living the life we desire, right?

If we instead embrace this time of year as a space for reflection, cleansing, and starting fresh, we set ourselves up to feel good and in turn, to win.

So, what exactly does it mean to reflect, cleanse, and start fresh?

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Are You Running Nowhere Fast?

There are many things we do to distract ourselves from processing the bad stuff we experience daily. My hunch is that you have been running nowhere fast.

 

Let’s face it, the bad stuff just doesn’t really feel good at all. It is not appealing to think about facing those feelings that seek to cause you discomfort and heartache. Face those thoughts that dredge up old memories. Look at those deep dark places within you that threaten to expose your most vulnerable parts. The bad stuff starts to surface and the instinct that rises to the surface is to run and find a way to make those feelings go away.

There are so many things we do to run away. There is denial, destruction, avoidance, over-indulgence, and even depression. We find whatever ways we can, whether consciously or not, to avoid having to feel all that bad crap and keep ourselves moving forward.

What makes this worse these days, is the focus on thinking positive. We have gotten to this place where everyone seems to have the same answer for anyone’s problems…”Just think positive.” It’s almost a sign of weakness or something if you make an attempt to go into the yucky stuff that may be surfacing. And yes, focus and mindset are a major component in succeeding at any goal and a big part of what I teach all of my clients.

So that begs the question of what you are supposed to do when the inevitable moments of feeling the bad stuff come up. Can you just positively think your way out of having to face them?

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A Perspective of Hope in the Wake of Charlottesville

Charlottesville. We all have the choice to seize the opportunity presented to us and make a difference. Life is happening in service of us, not to us.

 

I simply have felt compelled to write….

I remember the days after Donald Trump was elected president, feeling as though permission had now been granted for hatred and evil to be released into our world. I remember feeling scared and afraid, a sense of foreboding that things were about to get really bad. I have prayed, I have worried, and I have cried in the days that have followed and I imagine, this will not be ending soon.

As the days have gone by, I have tried to make sense of things and somehow wrap my head around how any of this can actually be reality in 2017. If I am honest, I really should not be surprised as I know, in the deepest place in my soul, that nothing can be healed when it has been buried. Yes, we have come a long way over the years on the surface, but underneath all of it, there has been a steady flow of racism, sexism, heterosexism, and anti-Semitism present in our world and unfortunately, since we have only sought to bury the past, it seems that these opinions have only grown in strength for many.

Over this past weekend, I was devastated and sick to my stomach watching the images of Charlottesville unfold. I felt like someone had kicked me in my gut when I heard Donald Trump respond with blame on all sides and refuse to acknowledge the woman, Heather Heyer, whose life was taken as a result of this ignorant and disgusting display of humanity. It was in these moments that I knew my fears had come into fruition and that evil had absolutely been given permission to come forth.

As a spiritual woman, I have struggled with my beliefs over the past few days, attempting to understand how all of this can be happening in the abundant universe of love and support that I believe in. What could possibly be the reason, what could possibly be the purpose?

One of the things I write and speak most about is how everything, even the worst of our struggles, is an opportunity and a gift from the universe, offering the possibility for growth and healing. Life is happening for us, in service of us, not to us. I truly believe in what I teach and have sought to understand how I can apply this belief to what is happening in our world today. And I want to share this perspective with you here today.

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Change Is So Freaking Easy….Right!!

Make a decision to start your journey of change. Commit to take daily actions and let go of your fears that are holding you back from achieving your dreams

 

Change is easy, right?

I mean, you make the decision that you want to change, need to change, and then you just do it. You take the necessary steps, one right after the other until you reach your goal of change. There is nothing else to it… make the decision, take the steps, enjoy the benefits.

So then, what’s the problem??

Change is probably one of the absolute hardest things for most people to wrap their heads around. As humans, we seek out the comfort and stability of what we know, what we are used to. It makes us feel safe. It makes us feel secure. We prefer comfort and security so much over the unknown and change that most people will remain in the unhappiest of situations for way too long, possibly forever. The unhappiest of situations is somehow less frightening, less overwhelming, than the uncertainty of what’s ahead. 

Overall, we would rather be miserable than face the unknown.

When you read this, are you shocked? Or does a part of you secretly relate to what I am saying, knowing on some level that it is true? I imagine you are being reminded of the promises you have made to eat healthy, the exercise routines you committed to in the past, the toxic relationships in your life that eat away at your soul. Some of you have probably been quitting your soul sucking job for years or leaving a loveless marriage for decades, yet you can’t seem to get further than a few Google searches and possibly a couple of conversations with friends. Each and every day, the act of staying where you are drains the life right out of you, your tradeoff for not having to move forward into a life of unknowns.

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Abandoned…Deserted…Left Behind. Is This You??

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Abandoned…. Deserted…. Left behind….

These are the terms I hear so many women use to describe how they feel after a divorce or break-up, even from those who were the ones to leave. There is shock around watching their significant other move on with their life in a quick and seemingly painless manner. There are endless thoughts about whether or not they ever really mattered, if they were ever really loved. There is question after question about how someone they believed in so much could simply abandon everything they had.

Abandoned…. Deserted…. Left behind….

When I hear these terms I feel something inside me stir. I have felt these feelings tear through me like a knife, endlessly ripping away at my heart, and wondering how I would ever mend the wounds that were created. These feelings ate away at me in a manner that I couldn’t seem to escape. I obsessed about it to the point of making myself sick, falling to my knees endless nights asking “Why?” “Why?”

The answers never seemed to come, no matter how many times I asked and no matter how hard I tried.

Until one day they did and I understood why there was so much pain.

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How to Get Through the Dreaded Year of Firsts!

How to Get Through your Dreaded Year of Firsts! It's important to have someone who can give you the tools you need to take back ownership of your life

 

Your marriage has ended and now it is time for you to begin learning to live a new life, a life that seems foreign, and a life that you probably felt you have been plucked into without any warning. . Whether you have ended your marriage by choice or not, having to recalibrate and learn new ways of being will be a reality for all. There will be holidays, tasks and responsibilities, places, and people that will all seem new and unreal. You will be challenged and triggered along the way as you attempt to steady yourself along unsteady ground. You will feel scared and unsure as you begin to root yourself into this new way of being. You may cry out against the unfairness of it all as you struggle to learn new skills and create new memories.

I remember being in this place like it was yesterday. I remember feeling slighted by the deck of cards life seemed to have handed me. Learning to live my life completely on my own without someone there to run things by or pick up the slack was terrifying to me. I felt lost, I felt scared, and I felt pissed. Mixed in with that was my struggle to experience life on my own, a life that kept going on, day by day, even though it sure felt to me like life should just stop right in its tracks. Every holiday that came, every person I faced, and every place that I went served as a reminder to all that I had lost and the uncertainty of what lies ahead.

About 4 days after my Ex and I separated, I celebrated my 34th birthday. That painful night would mark the first of too many firsts that I would have to experience. Little did I know that hole in my chest, that feeling like something was missing, that sense of being off balance would pop up over and over throughout the next year.

Going through all of this was painful and scary, but along the way I learned and I grew. With each day that passed, I discovered tools, techniques, and wisdom that helped to empower me and make me stronger. I found a steadiness and truth that resided in my heart, and I know now, I would not have found this had I not gone through that challenging year of firsts.

And so today, I want to share what I learned so I can help you as you make your way through your year of firsts.

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3 Most Common Mistakes Women Make After a Break Up!

We all make mistakes. They are a necessary part of your growth. Learn about the 3 most common mistakes women make after a breakup.

 

The period after a break-up can be the most challenging for most, it is unchartered waters. No matter who you are and how much you have prepared yourself in life, your heartbreak can be devastating and an experience that feels very heavy and confusing. As I work with women finding their way during this time, there are definite patterns of behavior that are common.

One of these patterns is the 3 most common mistakes women make after a break up:

Mistake #1 – Focusing your energy in all the wrong places.

After a break-up, it can be so easy to focus on all the things that were done “TO” you and convince yourself what a complete jerk your Ex was and is. You can find yourself obsessing about what happened and trying to figure out why it happened. You may start thinking about who or what your Ex is doing right now and feel like shit because he isn’t doing it with you.

Or on the flip side, it can be easy to say “screw it” and just totally distract yourself from feeling anything at all. You might start dating men like they are going extinct, or even jump right back into another relationship, or start drinking and partying to have “much deserved” fun.

Here’s the thing…choosing to deal with a break up in either of these ways is a huge mistake. You cannot actually heal and move on from obsessing about someone else nor can you do so by distracting yourself from the pain. The only way to the other side is to go through it and a break up is actually a freaking awesome opportunity to focus on YOU. To give yourself some extra TLC, learn a ton about who you are and what you truly desire. Take an honest look at what you need to work on, and “level up” in your life so that you can continue to grow and expand into the woman you have the potential to be.

The more time you take to focus on you after your break up, the better prepared you will be for the type of love you truly desire in your heart. The quicker you will truly be living your life of joy!

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