You are going along day by day and feel like things are really great. You can honestly look at yourself and say that this has been the best week of your life since the divorce. I mean, you really feel like you are getting it. All that reading, personal growth, and yoga has really been paying off. This must be it…this must be what it feels like to finally be free of the awful emotional burden of divorce. You are smiling, you are joyful, and believe it or not, you are actually feeling hopeful. Maybe your life is actually about to be normal, maybe even great. You are ready to scream it from the mountaintops and then….. BAM!!! One unexpected interaction with your ex and you are suddenly spiraling down a black hole into the abyss of heartache again.
You feel disheartened and immediately question what the heck is wrong with you. How many times can you actually let this happen, and you reason that you will never move past this pain in your life. All that joy and hope quickly turns to despair and you question all that work you have been doing… the reading, personal growth, and yoga doesn’t work at all. What’s the point of doing any of it when you end up right back in this awful pit of pain anyway? Life is not normal, and certainly is never going to be great.
Does this cycle sound familiar? Is this a pattern you tend to repeat over and over? And do you wonder if it is ever going to end?
Well… you may not like what I am going to tell you here, but I am going to tell you anyway…
No….it is not ever going to end.
Life is forever going to happen. You will continue to experience difficult, unfair, and ridiculous things in your life. There is just no way around that at all. And even more, the absolute craziest things will happen in those moments when you are feeling really great. It’s just the way things go.
So now what? What are you supposed to do with this startling truth that I have just revealed? Well, you could spend the rest of your days guarded and expecting the worst to happen. You could be that someone who dreads joy knowing that disappointment could be around the corner. You could even just stay miserable, longing for a past that wasn’t even great, just so you could be out of the pain you are in now.
Or you can invest in yourself and do the work necessary to shift your mindset so that you can change your life. Living a life of joy, freedom, and fulfillment has absolutely NOTHING to do with what is happening around you and EVERYTHING to do with what is happening within you. To live a kickass life means feeling joyful, free, and fulfilled even in the midst of the most terrible storm happening around you. It means being so invested in your own personal growth that you can exist in a way that allows you to show up as your best self and contribute to the world in a positive way.
You may believe the circumstances of your life are the reason for where you find yourself today, but they are not. They are only details of a story that can be shifted at any moment you choose.
So, if you think about it, I have just given you a really big gift. The gift of power over your life. If you believe that circumstances are responsible for how you feel, what you do, and how far you are able to go, then you really have no control over your life and are at the mercy of others. Basically, you are existing with a victim mindset and there is truly nowhere to go from there. If you make the shift and decide that you are responsible for how you feel, what you do, and how far you are able to go, then you have all the power in the world and you are only at the mercy of yourself. And this my dear warriors, is what it means to have mindset that allows you to live a kickass life!
With Love and Joy,
P.S. Getting from where you are to where you desire to be truly is a simple choice of saying YES to yourself!
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